Friday 26 July 2013

The Magical Mind

It has been raining on and off in Gurgaon. A few days back as I was taking my morning walk I came across a stretch which had some small puddles on the pavement. There was this very familiar smell coming from earth wet by the rain waters. The smell just transported me back to a time long long ago. And as I put my foot in a puddle, in a split second of a moment, my mind raced through visuals, smells, sounds, feelings, emotions and a whole lot of memories from my childhood.

When I was in school we used to go for our vacations to Kolkata. It was always during the months of July-August… the peak of monsoon season in Kolkata. As I stepped on the watery pavement that morning I was taken back to those vacations in Kolkata. My granny used to live in a small hamlet (better known as moffetshawl) on the outskirts of Kolkata.  The wet muddy streets and broken half done roads from those days splashed under my feet. I could see the dark streets wet with rain, I could hear the croaking of thousands of frogs in the stillness following the rain, I could smell the green moss by the ponds now overflowing with the rain, I could feel the scent of the leaves and the barks of the trees with each breath that I took. 

In those days the concept of invertor had not yet penetrated into the towns and hamlets. So every house had haerikanes (kerosene lamps). As I found my mind walking back in the streets of that little hamlet I saw the warm yellow light and smelt the burnt fragrance of the kerosene. Every house big and small, of brick or mud  had this yellow light emitting from its windows. I saw the black soot of the kerosene on the glass of the lamp, the little insects crawling and flying around the yellow light. I saw my dear ones sitting near this yellow light and fanning themselves with hand fans made of dried palm leaves. 

My granny’s house had a big roof top where we would spend hours lazing around. I heard my dear neighbor telling us ghost stories while we sat around her with eager eyes and ears under the darkest blue sky on that rooftop. I felt my sweaty face and neck but I knew it was not bothering me for I was enjoying the cool breeze coming from the tall and tallest of coconut and shoopuri (bettle nut) trees, and from the wavy waters of the pond in the backyard.  I could hear the rains splashing at the blue windows while I lay awake inside the mosquito net watching the fire flies glow in the darkness of the room.

I was not bothered by the few mosquitoes that had managed to enter the mosquito net for I was waiting for morning to come when my cousin and I would rush to the backyard and jump into the cold and freezing rain water that had filled the pond beyond its muddy walls. I was not bothered by the red and black ants called Kaat pipre (wood ants) whose one sting was enough to make you forget your past, present and future for there were fish to catch from our neighbour’s over flowing pond! 

As I took my next step and my foot fell on a dry patch I was back in my present. But the short trip back into my most memorable years of childhood stayed with me for the whole day. What amazed me is the capability of the mind (in a more scientific term the brain) to store all these experiences - smell, visuals, sounds, colours, textures, events, feelings and emotions - over so many years and then run them through like a short film in a split second of a moment or one can say in a blink of a moment! Truly the human mind and its consciousness is a magical universe in itself.

Thursday 18 July 2013

Unsettling Desires



Desires are like underground rivers.
Flowing deep within us.
They rise and fall like the tides 
Unsettling us.

I keep struggling to get my desires.
And when the opportunity comes…
I create fear, I create doubt, I create unforeseen obstacles, I create excuses and a way out.
I wonder why I get the jitters? I wonder why I feel so down...
When my desires come and tell me try me out!

Tuesday 16 July 2013

Old Intentions with New Ideas

Have you noticed how sometimes right in the middle of the day, or while you are busy driving, buying something, reading a book, taking a bath, making important notes or doing some really really mundane activity a voice suddenly pops up in your head and speaks out to you! I just had one a couple of days back. I was driving down the road when all of a sudden this voice pops up in my head:

"Hey if one of my most deepest desires is to raise my child in a completely different manner from the one in which I had been raised......if my desire is to develop in her the ability to understand, differentiate and express her emotions without any fear or inhibitions....if my desire is to give her a life where she can be fearless in making choices and mistakes....if my desire is to help her grow up as an individual who is not ashamed of sexually expressing herself or is not afraid to say the word "NO" without  the fear of nonacceptance .... if my desire is to see her grow up loving herself the most and then extending that heartfelt love to others...

....then there are some desires that I will have to let go. I will have to let go of the desire to pursue a career to earn money, to make myself feel worthwhile and independent."

As this thought passed my mind I felt a sort of calmness. But then I kept thinking that why this calmness. The answer came to me in this book that I have been reading. A wonderful book given to me by my sis. It is called Women Who Run With The Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Este`s. In this book she takes different myths and deconstructs them to show how women through these myths can heal themselves, regain their lost creativity, their soul, their life and vigour and learn to love themselves and their wild wild souls which lies deep within them.

Pinkola mentions, while deconstructing one of the myths related to Nourishing the Creative Life, how in order to renew or strengthen our intentions or actions that have become fatigued we have to throw some ideas away, and focus.  

I realised that my pursuit of career and earning have so far helped me in meeting my desire of being independent, of feeling worthwhile and self-sufficient. But now this pursuit has lost its vigour and I feel worn out trying to keep up with it in order to meet my intentions.  I still want to be self-sufficient and cherish a life that is  independent, creative and fearless in thought. But to bring about this I have to let go of these already tested and done to death ideas. By guiding and helping my child and other children as well, to develop a personality that is self-aware, self-assured, expressive and self-loving I can still meet my desire of creating a life that cherishes and lives and life of love, freedom and fearlessness and feel calm deep down inside. For my child is none other than a manifestation of my own inner being.

"Take three hairs (symbolic of thought) out of your endeavour and throw them to the ground. There they become like a wake-up call. Throwing them down makes a psychic noise, a chime, a resonance in the woman's spirit that causes activity to occur again. The sound of some of one's many ideas falling away becomes like an announcement of a new era or a new opportunity." Clarissa Pinkola Este`s, in Women Who Run With the Wolves.

Friday 12 July 2013

Journey in thoughts



I am a thinker and I love to think! And while thinking I build so many different worlds for myself. World of joy and pain, world of love and hate, world of peace and turmoil, world of anger and envy, world of colour and darkness, world of desires and sufferings, world of relations and emotions. I often get bogged down by my world of thoughts. Thinking what do I do with these thoughts, where are they coming from, why are they coming at all?  I have started realising that hey they are just plain and simple thoughts floating around here and there. Sometimes in my head and heart and sometimes in someone else's head and heart. Just floating around. So I just let the thoughts fly around, stop by at times, spend some time with me and then pass by and perhaps return some other time again. But in all this thinking and thoughts I find moments of silence and wisdom which guide me in my path. I love my thoughts and my moments of silence. My-thoughtful-moments is a journey of my thoughts and my silence which I would like to share with all those who love to journey in thoughts!